To legalize or not?

Legalize or not is the question. I am talking about legalizing prostitution or if I am to be politically correct I am talking about commercial sex.

Nairobi Mayor, George Aladwa waded into this age-old debate with his declaration that City Hall would make prostitution legal but shortly thereafter he was forced to retract his statement as Kenyans bayed for his blood. It got me thinking and resulted in this post.

I need to issue a disclaimer. I have never procured the services of a hooker. I do have friends who are hookers.

I think that the allegation that legalizing will result in increased immorality and an increase in the number of hookers in Kenya is a load of bull. Kenya is currently Sodom and Gomorrah. If you can think it, it is being done and surprisingly by folk who shout loudest about morality. Kenyans are unfortunately hypocritically conservative.

I will go as far as saying that hookers are the glue who keep together marriages and relationships in Nairobi. Yes, it is a big statement to make but hear me out.

Yes, men do go to the hookers for the kinky, non-conventional sex but that is not the essence of the service the girls provide. Most often than not, the man will pay for an hour with the girl not to get down but rather to have a nag-free, non-expectation, and demand-less conversation which he does not get when with his wife or girlfriend.

A man is his ego. A man whether Bill Gates or the majengo guy both want their women to treat them like Kings. However women are trying to be men and thus forgetting to be women. Thus a man is 101% on fight mode, at work, in traffic, basically everywhere. Then when he gets home to his castle and he seeks to be King he has to compete with another king (wife).

So why won’t he go to the bordellos which are in every street in the CBD or in every estate, get King Treatment then by the time he comes home he is all f’d out or talked out to be bothered by the nagging?

Hookers know men. They completely understand the man’s psyche. So when today’s woman is being all independent and brash, the hookers are getting the men and making them feel like men.

Hell, I will go as far as saying that hookers should be offering bridal shower advice to the clueless women. Yes, I know that women typically look down upon the hookers and are quick to judge them but take my word, befriend one, learn from her and that may be the best thing that would have happened to your marriage/relationship.

I am not a chauvinist but I believe that there are male and female roles. I also believe that women are the foundation of the society and it beholden upon women to pause and reflect where the rain started beating them. (Feels like I should do a men v women post)

Also I am not glorifying prostitution or the hookers. I believe in individual morality and everyone being accountable for their actions and their consequences. I am just painting the picture of the reality on the ground.

I am pro-legalization because I reckon it will enable the girls to be safe, to access regular and constant medical check-ups and increase usage of protection.

As a lady you may think that whether the girls are safe medically or that they are in a place where they can demand clients use protection is none of your business but it is your business.

The hookers tell me that MOST of their clientele are married guys or guys in relationships. So hubby/boyfriend sleeps with hooker then hubby/boyfriend sleeps with wife/girlfriend. Zero degrees of separation.

So maybe the women should be in the foreground campaigning for the legalization of prostitution for their own sakes.

It is just a thought. Do not shoot the messenger!

PS: Always remember the ABCs of sex : Abstain, Be faithful, Use a condom.

Other side of the coin!

I do not claim exclusivity to being right. My desire is to stimulate conversation on topical issues and in a small way make Kenya a better place.

One of my friends, M passionately shared her opinion on the question on whether to legalize or not. This is what she had to say:

” I dont agree with you on this one, sorry. I don’t hate hookers, I just don’t think it should be encouraged by our law. Just because its happening doesn’t mean the society should accept it in writing. I speak as a Christian, its a sin, it’s been a sin.

As for protecting the girls, they should have access to information on its dangers then encouragement on how to make ends meet in more acceptable and productive ways. A man shouldn’t go to a prostitute in the institution of marriage in the first place. I will never agree with you!

Prostitution demeans women by allowing men to view them as sex objects; it separates sex from love, respect, commitment and relationship. It undermines the institution of marriage by encouraging promiscuity, it encourages promiscuity among single men and adultery among married men. Lastly, it lowers the health of the community and we both know this shall not be solved by legalization.

My two cents!”

Wow! She is passionate. It definitely is food for thought..




6 responses to “To legalize or not?

  • 3CB

    I have no opinion on this one, surprisingly. I must be getting old =)

  • Sienna

    Where do i start??
    1. We all have our roles, so who says women cant be independent and take care of their family??
    2. As a man, why marry a woman who nags ?? Either leave or dont enter marriage in the first place
    3. No way guys mainly go to commercial sex workers ati coz of a nagging partner at home!! Its coz they are simply not getting any, coz they dont have a partner to begin with or that sex vibe in the marriage became history.
    4. Legalize it or not, prostitution is here to stay. Though i do agree the girls should be protected coz they are human beings at the end of the day…

    • moderatekenyan

      Wow! Where do you start indeed :-). You raise valid questions and I will attempt to reply:
      1. Yes, women can be independent and take care of their family but I believe that there are wife and husband roles and the independent woman fad or culture does not change that.
      2. Leave or not enter? Is it really that simple? What she is sweet as honey before and a Jezebel thereafter?
      3. I did say that yes kinky wild sex is a factor but a hidden less obvious factor is the pampering and conversation and understanding the hookers provide. And yes I did ask around.
      4. Glad we are at concurrence on the fact that the girls do need protection.
      Thanks for reading!

  • Blessed girl

    I agree on one thing the advice and understanding the male psyche… I actually think women refusing to learn is actually to the detriment of the relationships …

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